Thursday, November 13, 2008

Love Dare Day 30

Well, first of all let me say that I have been busted!  Frank knows about the dare.  In fact, he has been on to me for a while.  Apparently, since about day 3.  He didn't say anything because he was just "enjoying the ride".  So, at least I don't have to hide it anymore when I am trying to post these and Frank can read my blog again!

On to day 30!  Only 10 days left!

Frank and I are pretty different.  In fact, looking back, I'm not sure how we ever got together in the first place.  When we met, we were about as opposite as night and day.  I was the bad one, Frank was the good one.  I like water skiing, knee boarding, fishing, horseback riding, football games and generally just being outside.  Frank does not like to get in any body of water that he can't see the bottom of!  So, that knocked out a lot of my outdoor activities.  And, even though he grew up on this farm with horses, sadly, he does not share my passion for them.  But, he does let me have them and he pays for my "hobby".

But even though there are many things that make us different, there are many things we share in common.  And those are the things that keep us together.  Keep us united and make us one.  Even though we have different interests and responsibilities, we are still a team.

I am reminded of the Trinity.  Now, I am not going to even begin to pretend like I know all there is to know about the Trinity.  But, what I do understand is this.  That even though it has 3 parts that function in different ways and have different responsibilities, they are still united.  They are still one!  Each part is different, distinctive.  Yet, they are one!  Each one loving the other.  Each one being an encouragement to the other.  Wow!  What a great example of what our marriages should look like.

We should view our spouse as just an extension of ourselves.  Truly, a part of who we are.  We did become one, after all, on our wedding day.  We should rush to meet their needs.  Because when we do that we are meeting our own needs.  Their needs can't be separated from ours.

The dare for today says ISOLATE ONE AREA OF DIVISION IN YOUR MARRIAGE, AND LOOK ON TODAY AS AS FRESH OPPORTUNITY TO PRAY ABOUT IT.  ASK THE LORD TO REVEAL ANYTHING IN YOUR OWN HEART THAT IS THREATENING ONENESS WITH YOUR SPOUSE.

I couldn't think of anything that was divisive to or in our marriage.  So, since Frank was obviously aware of what I was doing, I asked him.  Although he did say that he didn't know of anything that was divisive, he did mention something that is a point of disagreement.  And even though I want him to be the one to see it my way, it's not worth it.  I don't want it to become divisive.  I don't want there to be any division between us.  Nothing, NOTHING is worth that.  So, I will do what Day 12 said and give in to this area of disagreement.  Bring on the duct tape! 

9 comments:

GranJan said...

Ash, I just love your blog! I'm so glad I "follow" it , too!!! I love having you as a "blogging friend"! Thanks for visiting with the Frys, too! ...Blessings and JOY! Jan <><

Davisix said...

So glad you're doing this...xoxo

Sarah said...

How did he find out? Did he just guess?
I love following the love dares.

Aimee said...

I just love you, Ash...

tollesons4him said...

I love reading your love dare posts. Opposites attract right? C and I are as opposite as night and day too. You have something waiting for you at my blog.

Amanda said...

This is just such a wonderful way to honor the man that the Lord chose for you... I just might have to do this dare myself! BUT! I would like to actually SEE Fireproof first! lol

Many blessings-
Amanda

He And Me + 3 said...

I am so proud of you. I love to read about your love dare. You are an inspiration. BTW...I got a call from Kirk Cameron today reminding me that I can preorder Fireproof today at Family Christian bookstores. Just in case you aren't as tight with Kirk as I am...LOL I am definitely getting a copy of that movie.

Tammy said...

I really do enjoy your blog! I find myself leaving your page open and just listening to your playlist as a "radio" :) Love ya!

Elaine said...

Awesome stuff.