Anyway, today starts the first day of the Love Dare. In this first day, it's all about patient love. (hmm. See above paragraph to learn what NOT to do). No one likes to be around impatient people. They are rude and thoughtless in action and deed. Being impatient causes us to overreact (again, see above!) and say or do foolish things that most of the time we end up regretting. Anger almost NEVER makes things better. But patience can put the brakes on a problem. I like the way the book says it: More than biting your lip, more than clapping a hand over your mouth, patience is a deep breath... It is a choice to control your emotions rather than allowing your emotions to control you, and shows discretion instead of RETURNING EVIL FOR EVIL. When Frank offends me, how often do I snap back instead of taking that deep breath? Over and over in Proverbs, the Word tells us to be slow to anger and that if you are you have great understanding. And what a lack of patience will bring. Patience gives the other person a chance to be what they are... human. Patience understands that they are going to fail and make mistakes. And it gives the time necessary to correct it. More time than is often deserved.
Here is a verse in 1 Thessalonians 5 that shows the approach we SHOULD have with each other.
v 15: See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another.
How often do I do the reverse? More times than I would like to admit.
So today, the first dare is to demonstrae patience and to SAY NOTHING NEGATIVE to Frank at all.AND IF THE TEMPTATION ARISES, CHOOSE NOT TO SAY ANYTHING. What? Are you kidding me? Could someone send me that duct tape right about now?? Dear Lord, how I am gonna do that? Well, the bottom line is, I can't. So, I got on my knees (in my closet so F wouldn't see) and begged God to help me do this.
And, well, I guess I picked a good day to start, seeing as that it is Wednesday and we had church tonight so there was less of an opportunity for me to screw up! So, what I am saying is that today was good. I didn't say anything negative or make the faces that go along with having to be silent about it!! God broke out the HOLY DUCT TAPE and sealed my mouth. There were only a couple of times that I started to complain and doing this really made me have to stop and take that deep breath before I answered!! Hopefully, tomorrow won't be any harder. Even though I know that each day will bring new and harder circumstances... I never really have one to back down from a dare!!