Frank and I have been married for almost 10 years (in January) and there have been a lot of lessons learned along the way, some good and some bad. The most important thing that I have learned is that love is definitely NOT a feeling. It is a choice. Because believe me that there are days that Frank is NOT lovable (and yes, I know there are days that I'm not either. Whatever.) I spent a lot of time and energy trying to change Frank into the person that I wanted him to be. Instead of trying to work on myself. This mostly just ended in frustration and hurt feelings on both of our parts. By now, I have learned more lessons about myself than I care to and yes, have given up the dream of changing my man on a lot of issues.
All that to say that my BFF called and asked me if I wanted to do THE LOVE DARE with her. Not on her man, but both of us at the same time go through this, without our men knowing!!!! Then we could get together and share our experiences with each other. (okay maybe not ALL *wink wink*) See how the Lord chose to use this experience in both of our lives. Sounded like a great idea to me. So for the next 40 days, you will get a post on my Love Dare experience. (I know... I am excited too) Tomorrow marks the first day of the dare.
Even if you don't feel as though you are in a troubled marriage, we all can benefit from the lessons in the movie and in the book. So, go see the movie if you haven't already. And if you too want to participate along with us and share your experiences, feel free to post a comment on any of the days. Come on... I dare ya!