On, to today's dare!!
When you honor someone, you give them respect and treat them as very valuable and special. You keep your language clean, you are polite and courteous. When they speak to you, you take what they say very seriously. You give much consideration to what they have to say. If they ask you to do something, oftentimes you will do it just because they asked you to. Honor is a "call" to recognize the position or the value of someone else.
This is what we should be doing in our marriages. We should be honoring each other by giving our full attention instead of listening while we watch the news or read the paper. Or speaking to each other while reading a book or even while having a conversation with someone on the phone (ladies, we are especially good at having more than one conversation at a time!!) Our spouses matter!!! Do they know it from the way we treat them???
I have to say that Frank and I struggle very much in this area. Okay. Frank more than me, but me too. It drives me bonkers to try and have a conversation with him and see him staring at the stupid TV more than me while I am talking. He KNOWS it is a problem. I always bring up that if he was at work and I was a customer would he be looking the customer in the eye? Well treat me like a customer please!!! However, I sometimes try to talk to him with my back to him which is equally just as bad. (whatever) Honor. Respect. Look each other in the eye. Give each other the time of day please.
Okay, we are about to turn a corner here so stick with me for a few minutes.
THE LOVE DARE pointed out something to me that I had never thought of before and I really had to think on it for a few. The word that actually forms the basis for honor is holy. Scary, huh?
That doesn't mean that our spouses or that we will ever be perfect. Holiness means set apart. No longer common or everyday. Special. Unique. Not the same as everyone else. When you get married, each of you becomes "holy" to the other. No one else is supposed to have the same level of commitment or intimacy that the two of you share. Your life and everything that it contains is to be pressed together in this crazy bond you share with this one person.
Is that what your marriage looks like? Would your spouse say that you honor and respect them? Maybe it's you that doesn't feel honored or respected. Maybe you even have just reasons for feeling the way you do. It probably doesn't cause you to want to show honor or respect yourself.
But... that's not the thing with true love. Love shows honor even when it's rejected. Love treats the other as special and highly regarded even when an ungrateful attitude is all you get in return. Love says " With all the mistakes you've made and all the mistakes you will make, with all the times you have hurt me and all the times still to come--I still choose to love you and honor you anyway." That, my friends, is how we lead our hearts to truly love our spouses.
TODAY, CHOOSE A WAY TO SHOW HONOR AND RESPECT TO YOUR SPOUSE THAT IS ABOVE YOUR NORMAL ROUTINE. SHOW YOUR MATE THAT HE OR SHE IS HIGHLY ESTEEMED IN YOUR EYES.
Okay. Since, I didn't do the no blogging thing last night, that is what I am choosing to do tonight. Frank will be home a little later than normal. It will be after the kids are in bed (yuck! that means I have bath duty tonight:( > ) So once he hits the door, the computer is off and I not turning it back on. Not even after he goes to sleep! I want to focus ALL of my attention on him and not be distracted with other stuff. I want him to feel loved and honored! So, I will fill you in tomorrow. At least on part of it... *wink*